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October 11, 2014     6


Dwelling in the Space of Enough

Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never have enough.
–Oprah Winfrey

I’ve always struggled with the idea of having enough. It started for me as a young child growing up poor and struggling for everything I had. We always had less than the other families in my neighborhood and I was constantly feeling “less than” because of it. This led to comparison and shame, and also the creation of my limiting belief around having enough, and being enough. For much of my adult life, this belief played out in the form of a never ending drive to accomplish more, be more and have more in all the different areas of my life. If the notion of “never being satisfied with what you have” strikes a chord, you’re in good company. Our society caters to this idea and businesses count on it when marketing their products and services. They want us hungry for more and never feeling like we have enough in our lives.

And so what do I mean by “enough”? For the purposes of this article, enough is having everything you need emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually to be happy. You’re satisfied with everything you have and you’re not worried about acquiring more. This doesn’t mean you don’t WANT additional things for yourself; it just means you don’t NEED them. And you certainly don’t look at them as a means to derive your happiness.

As the amazing and wise Oprah Winfrey stated in her quote above, universal law around abundance is clear. When you dwell in the space of enough, and remain grateful for all that you do have, you create an “abundance mentality”. You will literally begin to attract more of what you want into your life. Conversely, if you obsess about all the things you don’t have (bigger salary, bigger apartment, that special someone), and expend your energy focusing on what’s missing from your life, you create a “lack mentality”. This leaves you feeling unhappy, unsatisfied and always wanting more. You’re constantly chasing after the “next best thing” (job promotion, new car, that guy at the gym) that you think will get you the happiness, acceptance or success you so desperately crave.

So how do you move your focus from a lack mentality to one of abundance? It starts with a shift in mindset and a heightened awareness. Try to shift your focus from everything you don’t have to everything you do. Grab a pen and a piece of paper and take an inventory of everything you already have in your life that you’re grateful for. This can start with the basics like food, shelter and air, all the way up to material items like a house, car or boat. Be as detailed as you can. Another great exercise for creating awareness and increasing gratitude is to carry a “gratitude journal” around with you for a week. Whenever you notice something you should be grateful for, simply pull out your gratitude journal and jot it down. Review your gratitude journal at the end of the week. I suspect you’ll be surprised at the number of things you already have to be grateful. Once you shift your mindset, you’ll expend a lot less energy, be grateful for what you already have and naturally attract more of what you want into your life. It’s an easier and kinder way to live. .

Give it a try and let me know how you do.

Have you ever had difficulty dwelling in the space of enough? How has your lack mentality kept you unsatisfied and always wanting more? If you’ve successfully created an abundance mentality in your life, do you have any tips for your fellow readers? Join in on the conversation by adding your comments below.



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  • I have been guilty of wanting more, and looking past the needing part of things through the years, but I can say today that the being content in my life is where I find the happiness that keeps me grounded. I am still seeking that special person in my life to share the future with, but even that not as hard as I used to. It would be nice, but in no way will not having it change my outlook in the future, but as always open to the possibilities.

  • Bill Durow says:

    Very, Very good article. I liked it! You are a wonderful writer!

  • Darius Lukas says:

    It took me quite a few years and a lot of work to realise that I was living from the place of scarcity rather than abundance. That shift in my consciousness – when I started seeing my life through the lens of abundance – absolutely revolutionised my life. And yes, good old Oprah is totally right – gratitude is the way. Now, every day and, in particular when life gets tough, I ask myself: what are you grateful for(?). I am always surprised that I come up with a long list of things – and it immediately relieves pain or suffering of the moment. I guess gratefulness helps us come into acceptance of WHAT IS… A beautiful and thoughtful read, Joel. Thank you.

    • joelreadence says:

      So insightful and well said Darius! I practice the same gratitude ritual when I feel tested by life. This simple ritual, in time, can shift your mindset so you instinctively look for things to be grateful for rather than focus your energy on what you perceive to be missing or deficient in your life. Thank you for leaving a comment!

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