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Hi, I'm Joel. Welcome!

I believe that all gay men can… and should… have genuine, inspired and fulfilling lives. Lives free from insecurity, the need for external validation and the misguided feelings of self-loathing that many in our community experience.

I’ve learned that with the right guidance you can create life-altering shifts in perspective that can break down self imposed barriers and reconnect you to your true self. Through individual and group coaching, I partner with gay men to overcome fear around failure, success and judgment by others to help them identify their dreams and reach their full, self-expressed potential.

It is my hope that as each of us become more secure in who we are as individuals, we as a community will have a greater impact on people who have yet to take the first step in being true to themselves.

I look forward to working with you!


Risk Aversion: The Next Big Dream Killer

And the trouble is, if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more. –Erica Jong Have you ever heard of somebody on their death bed, tears in their eyes, overwhelmed with regret, saying, “I wish I would have spent more time working at that dead-end job.” Uh, probably not. Why? Because regrets are focused around those things in our lives we wished we would have accomplished and never did. Whether it’s starting your own business, traveling the world, moving to Key West or writing a novel, everybody has big dreams for themselves and their lives. So why is it that so many of us never accomplish the things we want for ourselves? Simple. We live in a risk adverse culture….



Facing Your Inner ‘Life Contortionist’: How to Stop Living in Fear and Find Your Authentic Gay Self

Check out part 1 of my 2 part interview with Mitch Rustad of Shout Out Health. In this interview, Mitch asks me about being gay and spiritual, how to push past fear and look inward to the answers to your life’s questions and how to ensure the life you’re leading is your own, and not what you think everybody else wants you to be. Check it out HERE!


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7 Ways to Stop Being A People Pleaser

Do you place your self-care on the backburner so that you can take care of other people? Do you sacrifice your own goals and dreams because you’re too busy helping others chase after theirs? Does your need to be liked by others override your need to take care of yourself? If you answered yes to any of the above questions you may be a “people pleaser”. There is a fine line between being helping others and people pleasing, and it’s up to us to pay attention to the signs. People pleasers put the needs of everybody else ahead of his or her own. They’re almost addicted to saying yes when asked for assistance and worry that they might be labeled…



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